Why hello there! Tis been a while!
I've had several ideas over the last few months for blog posts but by the time I get around to actually writing them, *POOF* - it's gone!
Just last night I was contemplating toxic masculinity and the drive in our culture towards civil violence - these thoughts were in response to the recent Bondi Junction knife attack that tragically claimed the lives of six people and left several more in critical condition in hospital (including a baby....)
Yeahhh......
Then this morning I wake up to the news that there was yet ANOTHER stabbing, this time in Western Sydney at a church.
*sigh*
There is really too much to say on either one of these awful tragic events, so I won't.
Instead I was also alerted to an interesting little incident that happened recently which has now been nicknamed 'strippergate'..........
Ok so here's the cliff's notes version:
James River Church holds an annual men's conference at Great Southern Bank Arena on April 12 and 13 this year. On the first day of the conference, a performer named Alex Magala performed on a platform, taking off his shirt, swallowing a sword and then climbing up a stripper pole. Alex Magala is a previous America's Got Talent contestant, a 2-time Guinness world record holder, a member of the sword swallowing association international and is a black belt in Brazillian Jiu Jitsu - the guy has the receipts! To top it off, Alex was the first person in the history of the Olympics to perform on a stripper pole in the Opening Ceremony of the Olympic Games in Sochi in 2014. It can safely be said that the organisers of this men's conference knew what they were getting - it's not exactly secret. And to be fair, Alex Magala is not actually a 'stripper' - he is a stunt performer who took off his shirt and uses a pole as part of his aerial sword swallowing act.
The next afternoon, one of the speakers, a rather well-known and somewhat problematic pastor named Mark Driscoll, takes the stage to speak and let's just say the guy chose chaos.... he starts by saying that he had been up since 1am praying for the men at the conference until his voice was hoarse, before then roasting the opening act accusing a 'jezebel spirit' of inhabiting the conference. The organiser of the event and lead pastor of James River Church John Lindell then is heard yelling "you're out of line Mark!" - Driscoll tells him he'll 'receive that' to which John then replies, "you're done!". Mark says thank you and leaves the stage to both boos and loud cheers.
There's already been a lot of theological debate about what happens next - John Lindell gets up and cites Matthew 18, stating that Mark had not mentioned anything directly to John and therefore should not have said what he said publicly. Ehhh I think that's poor theology and I think Lindell is wrong, but that's not what I wanted to focus on when I first heard about this.
I was actually more interested in what was being portrayed at this men's conference as a whole rather than the issue of the so called 'stripper'. The conference in question is called "Stronger Men's Conference". Promos for the event feature quick cut scenes of men boxing, riding motorcycles, riding bulls, brandishing weapons, lifting weights, hitting punching bags, wrestling, all overlaid with hard hitting rock music singing about being 'ready to fight'. It's a testosterone laden, blood pumping portrait of conflict and opposition.
Is this Christianity?
I have felt for a while now that Christianity as a broad faith system is having an identity crisis. For too long different factions have risen and fallen upon their perceptions of what it means to be a follower of Christ, and the problem is, there's an element of truth in basically all of their interpretations. For this church, it is evident that they believe Christian men are to be physically strong, fearless, and ready to 'fight' - and their portrayal of that is quite literal: physical fighting. There's certainly a degree of theological truth in that: after all Isaiah 42:13 calls God a 'man of war'. Others take it more into the spiritual realm with speaking in tongues, laying of hands, handling snakes, etc saying that they're fighting evil spirits - again, there's plenty of biblical evidence for that and there's definitely verses to back that up. Then there are those that put their faith in acts of good will towards others (I'm thinking like, Salvation Army for example) and of course, Jesus himself advocated for this throughout His ministry. There's an element of biblical accuracy in all of these, and yet they're not WHOLE and I fear that this conference has slid down that very slippery slope of trying to be 'attractive' to a section of the male population while forgetting the saviour they are supposed to be emulating.
If we are to be a follower of Christ, then shouldn't we look to Christ to figure out who and what we should be?
It is one of the challenges of faith to think of Jesus holistically rather than to pick out the bits and pieces of scripture that appeal to us. I fear that over time the concept of a Christian man has somehow been skewed and twisted into our own distorted vision to serve various ends. Not that this tendency is limited to just men - a distortion of identity has long since been a struggle for women also (of course with patriarchy adding to the confusion question of a woman's role in the church!).
The other day I was reading Genesis - "male and female He created them" - and I think the question of Christian identity is just one aspect of being a follower of Jesus that as Paul would say we all have to work out 'with fear and trembling'. I find within myself daily the struggle between my own Christian faith and what many would label as 'leftist' ideals of compassion, acceptance, love and tolerance. I sit in that exceptionally uncomfortable place of being personally against abortion, yet being pro-choice (I choose not to, so how can I NOT be pro choice???). I believe in loving ALL human beings, no matter what their gender or sexual identity is, yet this also goes against the grain of what most major Christian sects would have me subscribe. Sitting on the fence is painful, yet here I am dangling either side of some very sharp pickets, not sure which way to land.
Getting back to Mr Driscoll, I similarly find myself conflicted: Mark Driscoll is not someone I follow, and not someone I trust (this instinct was in me long before he was found to be slightly hypocritical in his own behaviour!) yet I cannot say I disagree with him at least in part. I think this is yet another example of the struggle for identity, and in choosing this as the opening act, it's brought that crisis to the surface. By arguing over Matthew 18 and whether Mark should have said anything at all, we miss the point - the point is not the opening act, but what it represents and how we as humanity struggle to know WHAT following Jesus really looks like. I often ask myself, if Jesus lived today, what would that look like? Would He ride motorcycles or box or wrestle or lift weights? Would He march in anti-LGBTQI+ rallies? Would He stand in the crowd and clap for right wing politicians? I cannot help but think He wouldn't.
The Jesus I know doesn't do ANY of those things. I don't even think Jesus would attend most churches I've been to. Certainly not the last one I was a member of - I left it after I sang at an Easter service and watched the Easter bunny bounce down the central aisle, giving out Easter eggs...that was enough for me!
I think Jesus calls us to be set APART from the world - but in a desperate effort to try and 'win souls', we have instead lost that purity of faith. We have become the world instead of being set apart. It's a fine line to walk, believe me I get it, and in a capitalist society where you have to appeal to the masses to be successful, I get that there is always a temptation to get the message right to appeal to the most amount of people. But the question that weighs on my heart remains: in trying to spread the message of Jesus, have we strayed too far away?
As for myself, I am no longer an attender of any church, and may never be again. I acknowledge that this has taken a significant toll on my relationship with God, and it's very difficult to remain plugged in when I am standing on my own without being regularly around other believers. I YEARN for a community where I am spiritually fed. Yet I cannot go back to being ignorant of the abuses the church has wielded on its members, nor can I reconcile within myself how far away from being a follower of Christ Christians actually are. The God that is preached from pulpits is no longer mine, and therefore I am no longer theirs. The God I love, adore and pray to doesn't climb poles, nor does He stand on a pulpit and judge those who do.
And if I get to heaven and find out that their god is not the God I love - I'm ok with that.
'Jezebel spirit': Pastor kicked off stage at Christian conference in Missouri (msn.com)
About Me - Alex Magala - Official Site